The Process of Blended Families
You take fruit and add some ice cubes, perhaps a little sugar and yogurt and proceed to annihilate these individual items into a smooth and delicious concoction. While the finished product is wonderful and satisfying, the actual blending process can be violent. It requires each individual ingredient be decimated, in order to become part of a cohesive item.
The same is said for blending families together. It is an arduous task with several players whose roles have all changed. Mom has become not only mom to her own children, but also step-mom to new little people. Step siblings are now learning to coexist with each other. Then, there are the exes. Every individual person in the equation is at a different time and place in their personal growth and now expected to acclimate to the new consistency of their lives.
Some are reluctant to change and revolt causing friction in the newly formed family unit. At times, two different parenting styles collide and outbursts of “you’re not my real mom” or “I don’t have to listen to you”; erupt as a result. These statements can arouse bitterness, anger and hurt feelings. And while everyone’s feelings are valid, it is a tough road to walk on your own.
Remember to give yourselves time to grow together as a family. The old proverbial saying that ‘Rome was not built in a day’, rings true in this situation. Remember that everyone is adjusting. Be patient with one another. Be loving to one another.
If you find yourself and your newly blended family, facing troubles, do not give up! There is hope. Just remember, there are no perfect people or perfect solutions and you are not alone. We are here to help!
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