Inclusive Language: Self-Awareness, Understanding, and Learning from your Mistakes

Language matters. The word choices we make daily can influence our relationships with our family and friends. You should be aware of the word choices you make and feel confident in how those choices represent your character. How we represent our character is important in terms of the brand we depict to the world. Perhaps when addressing a crowd, you may introduce the talk with , “Ladies and gentlemen”, but unless you are aware of each person’s gender identity, you take a risk, when addressing the group in this way. Language matters and we show the best parts of ourselves when we use inclusive language. Here are three recommendations for using inclusive language.

Inclusive Language: Self-Awareness, Understanding, and Learning from your Mistakes

Understand Positionality

I am a married, Caribbean woman, with a Masters degree, living in the suburbs with no children. My views are a direct result from my identities. My identity as a married women may influence how I think about relationships just as my identity as an educated person may influence how I think about how intelligence is measured. My identities do not have to prevent me from seeing another person’s perspective; rather, they can help me to encourage understanding of our differences. I should know myself and my positionality and this will help me in using the best language for my peers.

Understand Your Peers’ Identities

Not only should I know myself, I should know things about my peers. If my friends are single, American, and poor, I should keep those things in mind when I speak to them. I may say something insensitive if I talk about my Masters degree in ways that are discouraging to my friends.

Have a Willingness to Learn

We all make mistakes and that is fine so long as we are willing to correct them. If I do say something insensitive, what am I doing to learn better for the future? You may consider a person with a Masters degree to be smart, but that person could always learn more. You may risk maintaining your relationships if you are not willing to make changes if you offend your friends.

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