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Couples in Crisis and Christ

You start a relationship with love and optimism flowing abundantly through your veins. It is alive and well in your spirit as you exchange your wedding vows. You feel untouchable by tragedy or crisis. So long as you have one another, you can conquer anything. What a beautiful moment in life this is.

Couples in Crisis and Christ

However, life rolls on and things happen. One of you loses a job or addiction takes up residence in your home. Perhaps someone has been unfaithful or there’s been the loss of a child. Regardless of the details of how you arrived, you find yourselves plummeted into despair, grief and crisis. Suddenly, that euphoric perfect memory of the day you said your vows seems foreign and distant. You want to quit. You want to walk away because the pain is too great or the struggle too difficult. In this moment of fight or flight, you have a choice. You can choose to succumb to the negative despair or; you can choose to unify and set a course to overcome your adversity together.

Crisis, no matter how it looks, is an immense opportunity for personal and mutual growth together. Overcoming a crisis requires self discovery, willingness, hard work and an attitude of perseverance for both you and your spouse. Many take heart in knowing that they are not alone. As Christians, we are not guaranteed an easy path. In fact, the Bible tells us otherwise. John 16:33 tells us: “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world”.

There is comfort knowing that Christ has already conquered all of it! Allow this passage to fill you with reassurance and confidence that we can overcome whatever life has thrown our way, in Him. Sometimes we need some extra help in bearing the burden, that’s why we are here to help. As a resource in times of trouble, please do not hesitate to contact us today.

5 Tips to Move from Crisis to Stability in Your Relationship

Are you a couple in crisis? At Family Restoration Counseling services, we’re here to help you through difficult moments like these. It takes time, commitment, and dedication to move from crisis to stability.

5 Tips to Move from Crisis to Stability in Your Relationship

Start with these 5 tips to help you renew your love and transition through this difficult period in your life as a stronger couple:

  1. Go to couples counseling. A counselor is a professionally trained neutral party with tools and resources to help you and your partner navigate the stress and hardship of your relationship. You will work on communication, conflict, and compromise, as well as other skills you may need to strengthen. Also, attending counseling shows your partner you are dedicated to making the relationship work.
  2. Spend time together – alone. As a couple in crisis, spending alone-time together may be difficult. However, it’s necessary to carve out special date nights or outings just for the two of you. Turn off your cellphone. Lock your doors. Ignore the internet. Spending time together strengthens your relationship and will remind you what you love about your partner.
  3. Learn their love language. We all have different love languages. Get to know your partner’s love language, and use that to make him or her feel extra special. If you have different love languages, this may take research and thinking outside the box. That’s okay…it shows how much you truly care.
  4. Try something new. Trying something new is a great way to bond, laugh, and spend time together all at the same time. You’ll make new memories and practice communication and conflict management skills you are working on with your counselor.
  5. Say the words.Yes, you love each other. That’s why you’re committed to counseling and spending the time to renew your marriage bonds. Even when it’s difficult, make sure you remind your partner of your love every day.

It is key to remember that all relationships take work, and your relationship isn’t doomed to failure just because you’re going through crisis. Together, you can work through anything. Contact us today for more information on how we can help in difficult times.