Counseling Tips & News

Top Marriage Stressors

What are the top marriage stressors? We’ll look at what most couples struggle with. Receiving marriage counseling can assist in overcoming these marriage stressors and help to strengthen your marriage long-term. This is also a good education for those in per-marital counseling.

Communication: Communication is key to any relationship, especially marriage. If you can’t adequately communicate, then you had a larger problem than you thought. Our spouses are our closets allies, and they are on our side. So what shouldn’t we communicate with them? Any issue you have with your spouse will have to be discussed at some point, so why wait?

Money: Finances are an important part of marriage. But, they don’t have to be the root of issues between you and your spouse. Whether you have a little money or a large amount, you aren’t immune to money woes. Again communication is key to avoiding stress in your marriage over money. Do you agree on how you spend your money? Is one spouse better with money than the other? Are you both “bad” with money? If so seek financial counseling to help you manage money better.


Growing Apart:
We all develop and grow as we age and sometimes we change in that process. Make sure you are still doing things you like to do together. Between careers and kids, many couples leave no time for each other. It is important that you have time together doing the things you enjoy doing.

Infidelity: Infidelity can cause a lot of pain and stress on a marriage. Our marriage counseling offers great insight, and restoration for couples in this situation. First remember to save your marriage you must communicate. And sex probably wasn’t the reason for the person to cheat, the issue is most likely much deeper.

Substance Abuse and Mental Health There is hope to overcome the pain of substance abuse and succeed. We offer counseling services directly related to these issues as well. In addition marriage counseling may be needed to aide the process. Seek the help needed so that you can save your marriage and move forward in a better way.

Family Restoration Counseling provides marriage counseling in Dallas. We offer many other counseling services as well. Contact us today for more information.

Dallas Marriage Counseling – The Real Problem With Marriages

Marriage Counseling is one of our most common services and provides specific responses to specific issues in the marriage we are assisting with. As a Marriage Counselor in Dallas, we see a variety of couples in different circumstances and situation.

If you were to enter a bookstore you’d find an endless supply of marriage resources that all seem to have the feel of 5 easy steps. Many of the marriage resources list some items, almost a checklist of things to do. If you read 5-6 marriage books, you’d most likely have 25-30 items on your checklist that you should be doing every day or at least on some consistent basis.

It seems that anyone reading these types of marriage resources would come out more confused and overwhelmed than anything else. Some give up and don’t take any steps at all to improve their marriage. Others start off trying to make a difference, but lose interest or the desire to continue.

Our lives are busy, between work, kids sports, school and other activities, couples must make time for their marriage. For marriages to grow, we must nurture the ability to care for what is important to our spouse.

So what is the real problem with marriages? Mostly communication. It sounds simple doesn’t it? Communication isn’t hard to understand it is hard to do. Many disagreements in marriages could most likely be avoided if better communication were taking place. Communication about finances, sex, future plans and kids. All of these topics could be less of an issue if couples had better communication in their marriages.

Another issue is the selfishness in our marriages. Most people don’t have any problem feeling compassion for a person on tv or on a street corner or even someone we just met. But, we don’t have any stake in their problems. When it is an issue your spouse and that issue interferes with you…it is easier to push it away or ignore it than it is to listen and do something about.

Take the time to look at it from their perspective and feel what they are feeling. Your marriage will benefit and you’ll become a better communicator.

Family Restoration Counseling offers marriage counseling services in Dallas. Contact us today for more information.

Counseling Makes a Difference

Life is sometimes difficult and professional counseling can make a positive difference, if you give it a chance. At Family Restoration Counseling, our professional counselors assist families and individuals in Marriage Counseling, Premarital Counseling, Blended Family Counseling, Christian Counseling, Adolescent Counseling and other areas of counseling.

View our list below of why professional counseling can assist you.

“Talking about the problem won’t solve the problem.”

Professional Counseling can help you step back from the situation, gain perspective and identify the root of the problem. It may not turn the economy around, change your spouse or partner, or bring back a loved one. But, talking about the issue you have, will help you change and improve.

“I should be strong enough to handle this problem on my own.”

Many adults believe that we should be able to take care of ourselves. Depression, anxiety and other issues do not discriminate. Regardless of your age you can benefit from the guidance and knowledge of a professional counselor.

While these two statements are a small portion of excuses that people make to avoid seeing a counselor, you should give them a lot of thought. Counseling saves marriages, helps individuals move on after a loss, assists in restoring a persons confidence, builds strength and provides guidance in their specific situation.

If you or someone you know could benefit from seeing a licensed professional counselor, please contact us today. Family Restoration Counseling has a Dallas office, conveniently located for easy access.

 

Counseling for Postpartum Depression

Counseling can be a challenging with children. For parents who stay at home, juggling a schedule is no easy task. And many parents will forgo therapy or counseling because it is too hard to work in on a consistent basis.

When you as a person need some help, when you need counseling, you have to make time for it. It will benefit not only you, but your entire family.

In a recent study, phone counseling for postpartum depression shows to be useful for mothers unwilling to seek therapy in person. In this study mom’s who were unwilling to go to a counselor in person did show progress by talking with other mom’s that had previously experienced the disorder and had recovered. The mom’s found that the conversations helped relieve symptoms.

One in seven women experiences postpartum depression. Most do not seek help because they think they don’t have time or that the counseling will be too expensive.

Symptoms of postpartum depression are: sadness, insomnia, feelings of shame or guilt, difficulty making decisions and difficulty bonding with the baby.

Many moms that experience postpartum depression have previously experienced depression before they were pregnant.

Whatever the issue or depression you may be experiencing, Family Restoration Counseling in Dallas is here to help you through the process. Our licensed counselors have years of training and experience. Contact us today for more information or to schedule an appointment.

Marriage Counselor Dallas

Summer has arrived in the Dallas area and that means it is also wedding season. Did you know the average cost of a wedding was $27,000 in 2011. As Americans we spend a significant amount of money on our marriage before it even begins. But, we spend it all on flowers, photographers, dresses, venues and the list goes on. Not many couples make an investment in their marriage before or after the wedding.

We not only recommend premarital counseling before your marriage, but we also recommend marriage counseling once you are married. The reason we recommend marriage counseling once you are married revolves around communication. It takes a fair amount of communication to have a successful and fulfilling marriage. This isn’t something that necessarily comes easy, and this is an area that marriage counseling can assist with.

Marriage counseling can provide ways for you to bring about change in your marriage that you normally wouldn’t have accomplished on your own. It provides a safe and supportive environment for you to identify and communicate issues, behaviors and feelings that are bothering you. These conversations help facilitate positive change.

Less than 5% of divorcing couples seek marriage counseling. Couples aren’t willing to try, it would appear, to resolve whatever issues they are experiencing. Maybe they’ve tried themselves and have been unsuccessful, which is why it is important to seek a Licensed Professional Counselor for marriage counseling or any type of therapy.

It is reported that the average couple waits six years before seeking marriage counseling for marriage problems. Six years! The earlier you seek help, the better chance your marriage has of being successful.

Family Restoration Counseling has experienced, licensed counselors ready to assist you in your marriage counseling needs. Contact us today for more information or to schedule a counseling session.

Fears of Counseling

As Licensed Professional Counselors in Dallas, we encounter many different types of fears related to seeing a therapist or counselor. We provide a variety of counseling services for the Dallas area. In this article we’ll discuss some of the common fears of counseling we see and provide some facts related to those fears. Fears are different depending on the area of counseling needed. For example the fear of Marriage Counseling is usually significantly different than the fear of Grief Counseling. Although seeing a counselor or therapist can be a little uncomfortable for some individuals, ultimately it can provide a solution for the issues they are experiencing.

Some fear counselors because they fear their issue is too vague, disturbing or embarrassing to talk about with a therapist. Regardless of your individual and unique situation or concerns, we have a professional counselor who is willing to listen and to help in the situation.

Others fear that seeing a counselor or therapist means they are crazy, weird or somehow sick. This is definitely not the case. There are some cases that may require further attention outside of counseling. But, many consider counseling because they are stuck in some area of their life; socially, in their marriage, in an addiction, or a loss of a loved one. Most of us experience times in life that are harder than others. Seeking help during these times is a sign of strength and is a very good step in resolving the hardships.

Some of our patients fear that talking about attempting to deal with the issues they are experiencing will only make the situation worse. It is true that the counseling process can be challenging. However, the benefits of resolution, learning about oneself and uncovering items to be aware of far outweighs the effects of not dealing with the issues.

Many individuals don’t know how to start and fear taking that first step of contacting an LPC or therapist. It is common to feel uneasy about any new situation. A new job, marriage, a new family member, etc. But, our counselors are capable of taking you through your situation slowly and thoroughly. Deciding to try counseling is a big step, but a very important one in the recovery of your situation or experience.

Family Restoration counseling has counseling offices available in Dallas and Mesquite. Contact us today for any of your counseling needs: Marriage Counseling, Addiction Recovery Counseling, Premarital Counseling, Christian Counseling, Life Stage Counseling or Grief Counseling.

Dallas Premarital Counseling

Spring is nearly here and summer is just after it here in the Dallas area. Spring and summer are popular seasons for weddings. And with weddings comes Premarital Counseling.

Premarital Counseling is important to the beginning of a marriage and can provide tools and information that will be useful and relevant throughout your marriage. Premarital Counseling will help you identify and prepare for potential stressors in the relationship. Planning and knowing how to troubleshoot can be crucial to early growth and success in your marriage.

Our experienced therapists offer helpful insights and tools to help you prepare for this exciting step in life. Premarital counseling helps couples enter marriage with an understanding of each others expectations regarding roles, parenting, sex religion, finances and more. Premarital Counseling is also a great time to enhance communication skills, conflict resolution and examine any ongoing family stressors.

Premarital Counseling helps couples prepare for marriage. If you aren’t prepared, the chances of having a lasting, healthy relationship are much less. Premarital Counseling is designed to help you and your spouse have a happy, satisfying marriage.

Conflict will arise, tough times will come and premarital counseling can help you prepare for those times and offers great methods of how to navigate your marriage through those times when they come.

Preparation for a wedding involves more than picking out a wedding dress, invitations, a guest list, flowers and all the other pieces that make up a wedding. Take the time to build a solid foundation to start your marriage on.

Family Restoration Counseling offers Premarital Counseling in both the Dallas and Mesquite offices. Contact us today to learn more about our premarital counseling services, scheduling, fees and topics we cover. Our therapists are all licensed professional counselors ready to help you prepare a solid foundation for your marriage.

Dealing with Distractibility – And Who Doesn’t Really?

Are you an adult student with ADHD? Do you need help focusing on the task at hand? This article is aimed at adult students with ADHD. We have put together some helpful articles and our own advice concerning adult students with ADHD.

Have you recently gone to the refrigerator to grab the milk and wondered why that new can of shaving cream you bought yesterday was there?  Did you then dismiss any further thought of it when remembering, “Oh well, I forgot razors anyway.”?

Perhaps you are one of the millions experiencing . . . umm. . . Oh yeah distractibility.  Here are a few helpful suggestions.

One of the first things I would recommend is that you set your study environment up in a way to minimize distractions.  Turn off instant messaging, email, and your cell phone when you are really trying to grasp concepts.  Here are links to some articles that will help explain the rationale for this:

NY Times Article 1

NY Times Article 2

NY Times Article 3

NY Times Article 4

Essentially, we don’t really multi-task well and the world of technology is tricking us into thinking that we can.  The constant stimulation of emails, tests, instant messaging, etc. serves to exacerbate any underlying issues with attention.

Secondly, I would urge you to become a student of yourself.  What on earth does that mean?   Get to know your best times, settings, and spans (lengths of time) for study.   Use your schedule to optimize your efforts.  If you determine that you study best in the late afternoon in the presence of a friend to help keep you focused (not necessarily interacting, but being accountable to keep on studying) in increments of 40 minutes at a time, then maybe you schedule 10 hours per week in the library with friends after class and attack the material that way.  Reward yourself for each 40 minute increment with a 20 minute break to walk around, visit, get something to drink etc., and then hit the books for another 40 minutes.  Remember that the absence of structure is the enemy of distractibility.   Left on our own without a plan of attack, the distractible mind can stay “occupied” for an amazing amount of time on an amazing amount of material and accomplish / retain next to nothing.  There has to be a focused plan of attack.

This site (Adult Strengths) has several books listed on the left hand side of the page.  Each link takes you to Amazon where you can look inside and peruse a few portions of the book.   Perhaps one of them will be helpful.

Counseling Services Dallas & Mesquite

Family Restoration Counseling of Dallas and Mesquite offers a variety of counseling and therapy services. Some of the most common services are: Marriage Counseling, Premarital Counseling, Christian Counseling, Re-Marital Counseling, Addiction Recovery, Family Counseling and Adolescent Counseling. You can view a full list of our Counseling Services in Dallas and Mesquite on our Professional Counseling Services page. Below are a some summaries of our most popular counseling services.

Marriage Counseling

Marriage Counseling, or couples therapy, can have a variety of purposes. It can be used to help recognize and resolve conflicts, help examine key issues related to personality, values, history and perception or help enrich an already healthy relationship. Marriage Counseling can be short term or it could be several months of therapy depending on the circumstances. Whatever the time frame, Marriage Counseling is not to be taken lightly and requires specific training. Our counselors have training in a Family Psychology program wherein they learned to work with individuals, families, children and adolescents.

Premarital Counseling

Premarital Counseling is crucial to preparation for marriage. This service focuses on identifying potential stressors and planning. Premarital Counseling ensures that couples enter marriage with a clear expectations regarding roles, parenting, religion, sex, vision and more. It is also a great opportunity to enhance communication skills and improve conflict resolution. Don’t overlook the importance and value of premarital counseling.

Re-Marital Counseling

Re-Marital Counseling helps with pain caused from previous relationships. With 41-50% of marriages, 60-67% of second marriages and 74% of third marriages ending in divorce, re-martial therapy is often needed for individuals to have success in new relationships and marriages. Pain from previous relationships and feelings of failure can carry over to new relationships causing them to fail. After re-marital therapy, marriage counseling may be of benefit in new relationships.

If you are interested in learning more about our Professional Counseling Services, please contact our Dallas or Mesquite office. Our counselors are all Licensed Professional Counselors with extensive training in Family Psychology and Personal Treatment.

Benefits of Family Counseling

Family Counseling or Therapy can be very beneficial for all parties involved. The benefits of family counseling can not only impact the family, but also co-workers, friends and other people those participating in counseling interact with.

In Family Counseling two or more family members can address and evaluate issues with the guidance of a licensed professional counselor. Family Counseling can help increase communication and strengthen the bond between family members.

Our therapists are trained on treating issues within a family context. A few areas of common family therapy are: Parenting, Family Violence, Family Rituals, Change in the Family and Divorce.

Benefits of Family Counseling

Our Family Therapists are able to help solve problems by addressing issues in a structural manner. During counseling families will learn how to communicate better, helping prevent future issues and strengthening relationships.

Children can be involved in these sessions which can benefit the children immediately and also in the future as they grow and develop.

Family Therapy provides a venue for everyone to voice their problems or feelings. This helps family members feel that their thoughts and feelings matter. Our licensed therapists guide the family through conversation and assist in helping everyone express their feelings regarding the issue. During family therapy there is a great opportunity for everyone to express their feelings, something that probably wouldn’t happen if the issues were ignored by the family.

Our counselors can provide helpful advice, practices and methods after listening to the family express their issues and feelings. Family Therapy can include Marriage Counseling, Blended Families, Re-Marital  Counseling and other important areas.

To summarize, Family Counseling can:

  • Improve Communication
  • Enhance Relationships
  • Improve Self-Esteem
  • Improve Job Performance

Family Restoration Counseling provides Family Counseling in Dallas and surrounding areas. Contact us today to schedule your first session at our Dallas or Mesquite office.

Family Restoration Counseling provides Licensed Professional Counselors (LPC) for all sessions.