Month: November 2017

One Major Misconception When Dealing With Addiction Recovery

Addiction is a difficult subject. Many have opinions, but not all opinions come from personal experience. Addicts hear all kinds of advice from family and friends. Especially when struggling with addiction. Everyone wants to help. Most of the time this help produces an opposite outcome.

One Major Misconception When Dealing With Addiction Recovery

An addict’s struggle includes a consistent fight with their thoughts. Changing the way you think is one goal when entering recovery. When people you love start throwing opinions of your sickness at you, duck and weave. Listen to people active in recovery. Possessing longevity in regards to clean time is key. Don’t bet the farm on somebody’s opinion with whom you’re getting high.

One major misconception you will hear when trying to get clean and sober:  Just don’t use your drug of choice.

  • As long as you don’t partake in (fill in the blank) you will be fine.
  • Use (fill in the blank) instead of (fill in the blank).

This little gem of advice keeps people sick for years. Trying to limit your intake to drugs and/or alcohol you do not prefer will not work.

Deciding If You Are An Addict

You decided you are an addict for good reason. People who are not addicts never misdiagnosed themselves as addicts. You found some aspect of your life unmanageable due to your substance abuse.

Congratulations, this is admitting you are an addict. You are filling a void inside of you. You are acting obsessively and compulsively. You want to change the way you feel because the reality isn’t your cup of tea. Whatever the situation, changing your poison is not helpful. Trading one for another will eventually lead you back to your drug of choice or breed a new addiction. It is inevitable.


If you are struggling with addiction, acceptance is essential. You cannot partake in any drugs or alcohol no matter what the flavor. If you do, you are not clean and sober. Nor will you be as long as you continue using any substances.

Contact us and we will guide you on your journey to a better way of life.

Marital Infidelity Does Not Have to Mean it’s Over

Contrary to what you may be feeling right now, a spouse’s marital infidelity does not mean your relationship is over. Infidelity is likely a symptom of an ongoing problem that now needs to be addressed immediately. Although extremely damaging to a marriage, the damage of infidelity is not usually irreparable.

Marital Infidelity Does Not Have to Mean it's Over

After the dust settles, do you really want to never see your spouse again? Or if you have children, do you want to see your spouse with a new partner when he or she picks up or drops off the kids? You are hurt and humiliated and understandably so, but being too proud to forgive your spouse or trying to get revenge will not take away any of that pain or shame. Don’t compound what you are already going through by causing yourself even more problems.

Statistics show that divorce is bad for children. Even if you don’t have kids, the breakup will take its toll on you physically, mentally, and spiritually. Do whatever it takes to get your spouse into counseling with you for a last-ditch attempt to salvage the marriage.

Infidelity is a wake-up call, but after successful marital counseling, spouses can actually fall head over heels for each other all over again. Meeting with a therapist can force the two of you to address underlying issues and give you the tools to get past this.

For example, as wrong as adultery is, you may find that a little jealousy can help reignite the passion in your marriage. That said, you will need to learn how to avoid bringing up the subject of the affair. You will also need to communicate what each of your needs in the relationship. A therapist can help you work through all of these issues.

Marriage is a series of ups and downs. You have probably always loved each other, but it is natural to have fluctuations in your feelings for each other. A good marriage counselor can educate you in such a way that you will learn to prevent any future affairs even during the hard times. There is something about overcoming an obstacle that brings couples closer together than ever. People who have successfully pushed through after an affair will tell you that they are happier than they have ever been.

Contact us today for help with restoring your marriage.

5 Signs of Depression You Shouldn’t Ignore

A mood disorder that affects 350 million people globally, depression robs its victims of happiness, fulfillment, and energy.  The symptoms may surprise you, however. These are the top five signs of depression that shouldn’t be ignored.

5 Signs of Depression You Shouldn't Ignore

Enduring Sadness

This is not a case of the Mondays; it is a sadness that permeates every aspect of an individual’s life that lasts for weeks, months, or even years. There is nothing an individual does that alleviates the sadness, and often the sadness spirals down into hopelessness.

Loss Of Interest

If all of a sudden an individual loses interest in their normal activities, depression may be to blame. A loss of interest can appear in the form of withdrawal from social activities, sudden poor performance at work, or even decreased sex drive.

Fatigue and Sleep Problems

Fatigue and sleep problems are some of the physiological symptoms of depression and are some of the only symptoms that can be quantified. The body reacts to depression by becoming so tired that an individual cannot perform daily tasks, or sleeps far more than normal. On the other end of the spectrum, the individual may be fatigued, but insomnia grips them, and they are unable to sleep at all.


Becoming irritated at things that are non-consequential is often an early sign of depression. Whether an individual is irritated by friends, family members, or even their boss, the general distaste for everything is difficult to shake.


The final symptom of depression that you shouldn’t ignore is anxiety. While anxiety by itself is a different mood disorder, anxiety coupled with other symptoms signal depression. An individual with anxiety constantly worries over decisions to make or decisions already made, and if they made the correct one. They worry about the future and about things that they cannot change, including other’s thoughts.

If you or a loved one are experiencing any of these signs of depression, contact us. You can get on the road to recovery with the professionals at Family Restoration Counseling.